all my sincere greetings to all members of this group,
which is very dear for me .. it is a pleasure to join you, even if the topic discussed is not very joyful but we will try to not tdwell too much on memories, that's true, we were traumatized, but today turned into life lessons and we exhilarating to guide children who are living this situation in the path of peace and love.
I was ten years old as my parents separated .. my mom had found a house to rent in a neighborhood not far from the house of my father .. the first time the feeling was a sense of relief, after having experienced years of deep tensions in disputes, acts of violence, I felt released from a pressure that affected me until to depression.
In reality, this was only the beginning of a life that will upset and assaulted and very difficult..
....to follow...
I am in the middle of a divorce now, Devi.
It is very difficult.
Sometimes we get along, and others we fight like hell. He is six years older than me and Australian, he has taught me a lot, it is hard for me to break out of the dependency.
And he needs me because I am a Swede, I know my way around.
I don't want my kid's to get lost, I am trying to set them off on a relatively safe road...
Yes, and now my own kids are going through a similar situation. I think it's good, though, that I have experience on the matter, last six months or so I have been chewing and chewing the "divorce"- subject.
my mother said, as a matter of fact, when I told her the news, "are you going to put them through the same thing you've been through", as an accusation. Yes, I said, not so much despite of it being painful to me, but probably more Because of". And she couldn't answer back to that. It is quite sad, it is difficult to be close to one's parents and not being forced into their living patterns.
It is as if, I feel, she wouldn't give me the chance to succeed in my relationship, because then I would prove better than her!? i probably won't have a daughter of my own. maybe that's a good thing, there seems to be so much competition.
I have no experience of my own, but I know from others what a trauma this can be for a child. So this is an important topic to discuss.
Seems to be rather hard for teenagers, like in your case erika... I have seen so many examples of that...
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