Dedicated to a brother who is making his passage, may it be gentle. Love to Karen and family, Namaste, Miguel

Our willingness to share ourselves honestly with others opens the opportunity to create lasting relationships that enhance our lives. We often feel the need to mask our true selves and portray a perfected version of ourselves in social settings, believing that others will like us more than if we reveal our true selves. If we instead allow others to see the genuine person under the mask, we automatically begin attracting those who would resonate most deeply with us on a spiritual and emotional level. This allows us to create more lasting and meaningful relationships than we would by trying to be someone we are not. In addition, we eventually realize that our true selves are far more attractive and acceptable to those who love us than any mask could ever be.
-Unknown

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Love said to me,
there is nothing that is not me.
Be silent.


-Rumi


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The "Helper" Syndrome

One of the themes of practice is the gradual movement from a self-centered life to a more life-centered one. But what about our efforts to become more life-centered—doing good deeds, serving others, dedicating our efforts to good causes? There’s nothing wrong with making these efforts, but they won’t necessarily lead us to a less self-oriented life. Why? Because we can do these things without really dealing with our “self.” Often our efforts, even for a good cause, are made in the service of our desires for comfort, security, and appreciation. Such efforts are still self-centered because we’re trying to make life conform to our picture of how it ought to be. It’s only by seeing through this self—the self that creates and sustains our repeating patterns—that we can move toward a more life-centered way of living.

- Ezra Bayda, from “The ‘Helper’ Syndrome,”

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