Mothering - iPeace.us2024-03-28T17:50:21Zhttps://ipeace.us/forum/topics/2217368:Topic:56991?groupUrl=psychologyofpeace&feed=yes&xn_auth=noBeing a mother has been my ha…tag:ipeace.us,2008-11-24:2217368:Comment:5380942008-11-24T11:27:46.179ZAnnahttps://ipeace.us/profile/Anna23
Being a mother has been my hardest, most rewarding experience, to date.
Being a mother has been my hardest, most rewarding experience, to date. I see that in nature babies a…tag:ipeace.us,2008-10-18:2217368:Comment:3070602008-10-18T19:27:04.945ZTerrihttps://ipeace.us/profile/Terri
I see that in nature babies are independent in such a short time compared to human beings. It takes so long for humans to be independent - then we have the added mental level that screws with what our senses pick up in life.<br />
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Feeling out of control and dependent does increase our fear. We make it all too real to ourselves. What a hard thing to think about. I guess domination is a very personal thing, and doing it unconsciously is so dangerous, especially when it's subtle because it isn't easily…
I see that in nature babies are independent in such a short time compared to human beings. It takes so long for humans to be independent - then we have the added mental level that screws with what our senses pick up in life.<br />
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Feeling out of control and dependent does increase our fear. We make it all too real to ourselves. What a hard thing to think about. I guess domination is a very personal thing, and doing it unconsciously is so dangerous, especially when it's subtle because it isn't easily recognized. I've watched people exercising their power this way, keeping others dependent on them so that they have more control over them. It defines who they are and they have NOTHING to fall back on. And just causes so much pain too.<br />
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What if your mom was just afraid for your life in the very beginning? It seems loving, trying to protect your child, but then the kid grows up with this sense of not being able to make it on his own because mom was always scared and worried. And then this is connected to pretty much everything in his life. What a drag.... but recognizing is the key, you are right. Thank you for this, I will definitely keep this in mind as that mom fear creeps in, my daughter can pick up on it so easily, and that starts to scare me and then we are back on the merry go round again, gads....