What is the best way to forgive and forget? - iPeace.us2024-03-28T11:33:35Zhttps://ipeace.us/forum/topics/what-is-the-best-way-to?commentId=2217368%3AComment%3A2276910&feed=yes&xn_auth=noPut yourself in the one you a…tag:ipeace.us,2009-12-07:2217368:Comment:23074452009-12-07T14:00:35.893ZMegan S.https://ipeace.us/profile/MeganStypulkoski
Put yourself in the one you are mad at's shoes, ask yourself if they did what they did on purpose or intentionally harm you, if no, then why should you be mad? They don't want you mad at the, and you probably don't want to stay mad at them either. If they did intentionally do it, well, let them know it hurt you, and so long as they don't do it again, you won;t be mad at them.<br />
Also, if somebody who doesn't like you tries to get you angry for fun, don't let them, they'll sure be annoyed if you…
Put yourself in the one you are mad at's shoes, ask yourself if they did what they did on purpose or intentionally harm you, if no, then why should you be mad? They don't want you mad at the, and you probably don't want to stay mad at them either. If they did intentionally do it, well, let them know it hurt you, and so long as they don't do it again, you won;t be mad at them.<br />
Also, if somebody who doesn't like you tries to get you angry for fun, don't let them, they'll sure be annoyed if you keep forgiving them :)<br />
I've done it a few times where I'm always nice to people who don't like me, and then they wind up liking me because of it... best way to forget? I lost my…tag:ipeace.us,2009-12-05:2217368:Comment:23038282009-12-05T21:44:01.340ZRiccardo Gramegnahttps://ipeace.us/profile/RiccardoGramegna
best way to forget? I lost my ego.. did anybody find it?
best way to forget? I lost my ego.. did anybody find it? The problem is even if you fo…tag:ipeace.us,2009-12-03:2217368:Comment:22995222009-12-03T19:45:59.566ZMessianic2012 - Gordonhttps://ipeace.us/profile/GordonMuir
The problem is even if you forgive the person or organisation who caused you misery have they learned what they did wrong and are they causing misery to other people,there is a very thin line between forgiving and allowing destructive people to be free to cause more harm and misery to others that is we have law systems,police,armies but even they have become corrupted so the people are having to police the authorities so its a constant balancing act between right and wrong and sometime one…
The problem is even if you forgive the person or organisation who caused you misery have they learned what they did wrong and are they causing misery to other people,there is a very thin line between forgiving and allowing destructive people to be free to cause more harm and misery to others that is we have law systems,police,armies but even they have become corrupted so the people are having to police the authorities so its a constant balancing act between right and wrong and sometime one dominates the other. whenever my ego feels hurt, f…tag:ipeace.us,2009-12-01:2217368:Comment:22949222009-12-01T19:31:06.366ZRiccardo Gramegnahttps://ipeace.us/profile/RiccardoGramegna
whenever my ego feels hurt, frustrated, disappointed, resented, offended... i forgive myself for having judged, .. desired things, situations or people to be different,.. for having built expectations, .. for being not able to love unconditionally.<br />
As i take full responsability of my sufference, there is nobody to forgive and i find myself free and in peace.
whenever my ego feels hurt, frustrated, disappointed, resented, offended... i forgive myself for having judged, .. desired things, situations or people to be different,.. for having built expectations, .. for being not able to love unconditionally.<br />
As i take full responsability of my sufference, there is nobody to forgive and i find myself free and in peace. very, very true.tag:ipeace.us,2009-11-23:2217368:Comment:22769102009-11-23T23:50:42.007Zmelodyhttps://ipeace.us/profile/melody475
very, very true.
very, very true. Every relationship in which w…tag:ipeace.us,2009-07-10:2217368:Comment:18331292009-07-10T19:15:40.044Zmelodyhttps://ipeace.us/profile/melody475
Every relationship in which we participate is a what I call a vehicle for our own forgiveness. While it's true there is usually more than one party involved, the outcome is a product of agreements we have made in our path. We learn in our walk that perhaps there was judgment in place when we could look at the same set of circumstances through eyes of loving.<br />
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When we learn to forgive ourselves, we can truly let go of personal attachments, and see what is perfect and pleasing so that we can take…
Every relationship in which we participate is a what I call a vehicle for our own forgiveness. While it's true there is usually more than one party involved, the outcome is a product of agreements we have made in our path. We learn in our walk that perhaps there was judgment in place when we could look at the same set of circumstances through eyes of loving.<br />
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When we learn to forgive ourselves, we can truly let go of personal attachments, and see what is perfect and pleasing so that we can take these motions that are flowing against peace and create opportunities.<br />
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The more we ask for forgiveness and the more we handle every relationship with tender care, the more we show respect.<br />
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Forgiveness is a process and every time we master any given level, we can rest assure yet another opportunity will advance at us...<br />
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"When we question the intent of another, it can devour our heart." Greetings, you also need to f…tag:ipeace.us,2009-07-10:2217368:Comment:18320122009-07-10T08:10:55.891ZHans Valeriushttps://ipeace.us/profile/HansValerius
Greetings, you also need to forget. In case you do not forget it will stay in your mind. If it is a relationship and somebody cheated on you it also requires to observe the character of the person that cheated. The person feels sorry, is it real, is the person doing it again. I would rather prefer to end the story than having to live with the idea cheating will happen again. It will be an emotional decision it will be a absolutely personal decision, nobody can decide in your behalf and nobody…
Greetings, you also need to forget. In case you do not forget it will stay in your mind. If it is a relationship and somebody cheated on you it also requires to observe the character of the person that cheated. The person feels sorry, is it real, is the person doing it again. I would rather prefer to end the story than having to live with the idea cheating will happen again. It will be an emotional decision it will be a absolutely personal decision, nobody can decide in your behalf and nobody should get involved in the decision, max. somebody can give a comment on the cheater but any comment has to be taken carefully since the comment will be emotional again and not rational or better the comment is an opinion like whether it is correct that I wear a specific tie to my specific suit, 6 out of 10 say ok, 2 say it is horrible etc etc<br />
For the matter of forgiveness etc etc we need to forgive all creatures we need to practice patience and tolerance, how else can we develop compassion. We should consider all this people that are doing harm to us or hurt us as our teachers, without them we could not train compassion we could not practice patience and tolerance. Difficult way to go but it is the way, nothing else. cheers Hans Forgiveness comes first and t…tag:ipeace.us,2009-07-10:2217368:Comment:18316882009-07-10T03:07:17.961ZJenette Mhttps://ipeace.us/profile/JenetteM
Forgiveness comes first and the forgetting part will follow. It is a process that is different for everyone and it takes time. It's important to remember to forgive that one person not because they deserve but because you deserve it. Only when we let go of the negative thoughts can we truly have inner peace.<br />
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Forgiveness comes first and the forgetting part will follow. It is a process that is different for everyone and it takes time. It's important to remember to forgive that one person not because they deserve but because you deserve it. Only when we let go of the negative thoughts can we truly have inner peace.<br />
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be positive Thanks Jodi, for sharing your…tag:ipeace.us,2009-07-08:2217368:Comment:18270382009-07-08T06:28:12.239ZSukhpreet Kaurhttps://ipeace.us/profile/SukhpreetKaur
Thanks Jodi, for sharing your thoughts here with us. You have explained so beautifully and its true too.
Thanks Jodi, for sharing your thoughts here with us. You have explained so beautifully and its true too. This is a wonderful reply Jod…tag:ipeace.us,2009-07-08:2217368:Comment:18268582009-07-08T04:50:43.783ZMariquehttps://ipeace.us/profile/Marique
This is a wonderful reply Jodi, and said so perfectly. You definitely have a true understanding of the forgiving process. I have been in the situation where others have hurt me and not even realized that they have done it, and I learned quickly if someone has really "stomped" on your toes that it is ok to say "ouch". Much better to have enough respect for the person to bring up the fact in a calm and nonjudgemental way that they have hurt you. Explain to them how they hurt you and give them the…
This is a wonderful reply Jodi, and said so perfectly. You definitely have a true understanding of the forgiving process. I have been in the situation where others have hurt me and not even realized that they have done it, and I learned quickly if someone has really "stomped" on your toes that it is ok to say "ouch". Much better to have enough respect for the person to bring up the fact in a calm and nonjudgemental way that they have hurt you. Explain to them how they hurt you and give them the chance to say they are sorry if they are, or not sorry if they are not. I found the hard way that not saying anything and going about with hurt inside and resentment of the person is not good at all for you, and only compounds the hurt. Everything you said is so wise and true.