Featured Discussions - iPeace.us2024-03-19T09:37:39Zhttps://ipeace.us/group/wecannotalwaysshine/forum/topic/list?feed=yes&xn_auth=no&featured=1adult survivors of childhood sexual assault and abusetag:ipeace.us,2009-11-15:2217368:Topic:22580082009-11-15T20:21:00.834Zmikal haleyhttps://ipeace.us/profile/rebelnews5
there's a vibe that comes up when the subject is broached. a vibes, like "don't talk about that!"<br />
which is another level of the "tell dad and i'll KILL you" trip that I got at the age of eight.<br />
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after i got decent therapy in my thirties a lot of things changed for me.<br />
especially my attitude towards bullies, and the sort of people who use insincere laughter to cover up their own insensitivity -- or the subtle ways in which they themselves have supported the institutionalized abuses of children,…
there's a vibe that comes up when the subject is broached. a vibes, like "don't talk about that!"<br />
which is another level of the "tell dad and i'll KILL you" trip that I got at the age of eight.<br />
<br />
<br />
after i got decent therapy in my thirties a lot of things changed for me.<br />
especially my attitude towards bullies, and the sort of people who use insincere laughter to cover up their own insensitivity -- or the subtle ways in which they themselves have supported the institutionalized abuses of children, the disabled --<br />
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there are two groups of sick people, actually.<br />
the ABUSERS who get away with it via some version of the aforementioned tactic are ALSO mentally and emotionally not healthy. They function in society.<br />
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I am sure that many people will wish to talk about this -- but will be afraid to.<br />
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please, talk about what you feel comfortable talking about.<br />
(signed)<br />
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<a href="http://www.urantia.org/">http://www.urantia.org/</a><br />
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owing to rational anarchism, i very rarely TRUST any dotorgs, though.<br />
that one, however, is Good. Do We Need to Feel Pain to Know Love? Can We Love Without Feeling Pain?tag:ipeace.us,2009-10-31:2217368:Topic:22035572009-10-31T22:16:33.410ZLeah D (Pixie)https://ipeace.us/profile/LeahDiMaria
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( <b>this vid may be to loud for some people</b>, so you might wish to turn volume down)<br />
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This is a question I think so many of us have asked. Yes, when we open our hearts to Love others, we are risking having it crushed. Love is NOT just shiny words,it is the most important emotion we have.<br />
Is Loving worth risking being hurt? I for one truly believe absolutely -Yes!<br />
So what are your thoughts? Do you think we as Humans can feel Love without some pain? Can we have one emotion…
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( <b>this vid may be to loud for some people</b>, so you might wish to turn volume down)<br />
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This is a question I think so many of us have asked. Yes, when we open our hearts to Love others, we are risking having it crushed. Love is NOT just shiny words,it is the most important emotion we have.<br />
Is Loving worth risking being hurt? I for one truly believe absolutely -Yes!<br />
So what are your thoughts? Do you think we as Humans can feel Love without some pain? Can we have one emotion without the other? I think to truly give love to others can be at times painful,and it is worth having the pain too. But that does not mean that love SHOULD be painful,only that it can be at times,<br />
I know many might disagree with me on this. So many here focus on LOVE. Bantering the words and pretty pictures and phrases around like a "Hello" Do you truly feel Love when you say" I love you" to a friend ?<br />
I know I do. I do not say so if I do not "Feel" it. Sometimes and several times here on ipeace I have been hurt by people I gave my love to,but does the pain of it mean I no longer care? No. It doesn't. That's why it is painful. Because the Love is still present,even if the friend or person is not,or does not return it.<br />
Which leads to my next thought or question.<br />
As people discuss and debate unconditional love here and on these networks. Do you know what unconditional Love is?<br />
To me it is to give Love freely without fear of pain or expectations of anything in return.<br />
Of course to be loved in return certainly does make it more enjoyable :D<br />
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Just some thoughts that I have had rattling around in my head for a few days..... iPeace Members with Disabiling Health Issues- How Many Are We & Don't talk About It ?tag:ipeace.us,2009-08-15:2217368:Topic:19481582009-08-15T18:39:25.978ZLeah D (Pixie)https://ipeace.us/profile/LeahDiMaria
<b>*This is a discussion I wrote on my profile page in July. I have some really interesting replies to it there if anyone is interested in reading~please go to my page.</b> I would love to have some feedback from this group. Thanks and smile...<br />
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I wonder, as I go from page to page,meeting new people-making friends, just how many like me are dealing with disabeling health issues? Whether it be ourselves or a family member,and why we rarely talk about it ? I know why I don't.Not here or other…
<b>*This is a discussion I wrote on my profile page in July. I have some really interesting replies to it there if anyone is interested in reading~please go to my page.</b> I would love to have some feedback from this group. Thanks and smile...<br />
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I wonder, as I go from page to page,meeting new people-making friends, just how many like me are dealing with disabeling health issues? Whether it be ourselves or a family member,and why we rarely talk about it ? I know why I don't.Not here or other social sites.As I go about telling more about me and learning about others. I often know,whether they tell me or not,that like me,they are dealing with health issues that have become disabeling, limiting abilities to physically participate in life outside our homes. Sitting or lying down as I do in front of our computers,participating in life from our homes or bedroom as I do. Not discussing this to anyone else,rarely- if ever. Feeling like a "cyber" person.<br />
Because most all our lives are spent online, our activities are almost, or all online.Our social life is online. Here on iPeace (and other sites).<br />
I have been an activist/advocate &community organizer for nearly 20yrs now.Since Feb. 2007 unable to work. Since last summer i've only been able to do so online. As it became increasingly more difficult over the years I had to cut back on my activities. By 2001 only able to work part time for a local non profit. I still continued as volunteer for other non profits on a more limited level. It was heartbreaking,frustrating and depressing. I found much I could do from my home,my bed online,getting more and more involved as a cyber activist. In Oct,2008 I found iPeace(from facebook) and soon after became my home.The few times I did open up and answer questions from new friends here,as we go about getting to know each other better- soon after telling more about my health issues,they were never to be heard from again. Why, you may ask? Why, I asked myself? I suppose is because they don't know what to say? I suppose is not due to not caring,but because possibly they do care causing akwardness in wanting to help,say the right thing..but not knowing what that is ?.I honestly don"t know? ..But I prefer to think that my "new friend" or already a friend ,that is someone I became close to, that had asked a question which led to needing to explain limitations, didn't dissapear due to not caring but not knowing what to say. I don't know? I rarely ever mention,nor want to talk about my health issues. The fact is whether or not I am correct in reasons those friends never reply & disappear after I answer further inquiry into my health issues,it still hurts. I tell myself it doesn't matter,but it does. I tell myself they don't intend to be hurtful,but it still hurts.<br />
To All here on iPeace: with or family members dealing with disabling health problems please come here to this discussion. Share with me and each other why you think :<br />
1) We don't talk about it.<br />
2) After we do friends,people dissappear.<br />
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and in our efforts for world Peace,inner Peace,to help make this a better world. Do you think it really matters that we don't talk about our disabling health issues?