I have written much about children who are equivalent to "ticking bombs" and where we have to be very careful to avoid an explosion. We easily forget that children who have not received the necessary assistance is still ticking bombs, or mined, as adults. The difference is only that it is easier to deal with a child than an adult explosion outbreak.
When you are exposed to things that might get hooked to something painful it’s a healthy reaction to become a little sad, because it raises an old grief or pain.
Those who react with anger in a similar situation are the "deniers" those who are not able to see their pain nor do they want to see their sorrow. For them grief is associated with anger because they have not ”processed” what life has made to them ..
Anger is a defence against grief, and as long as they do not find other ways to deal with it, it is important that the anger may be a defence even if it is destructive The alternative is that the person totally loses foothold with all that may mean.
It may be helpful to understand from where the sometimes irrational anger comes from. That does not mean that people are mean or evil. It just means that they are in pain. They do not know themselves that the anger does not have any larger connection with what it was all about, even if for example the topic in itself can act as a trigger.
Indefensible Anger is just a repressed and disguised pain
I have called these phenomena "outactings” when you project inner feelings on things, events and persons in your surroundings and no one understands. Something that further sprinkle salt in the inner wounds of the these people. But nevertheless, we can not go on tiptoe for the existence of mined people in our surroundings. What we can do is warn the people in question that they need help with "defusing."
Everything is possible to understand ... The question is just if we are up to.. But at least we must keep in mind that their anger are just disguised grief