As to answer a question of what costumes one must wear...
My answer would be non, other than that which reflects the truth of the one within.
To wear a costume that is other, would then have others perceave the person within,
as other than the truth or only a smaller part of it given the most attention.
My friends I love for the truth of who they are inside,
if I loved only what is on the outside, and the costume changed,
what would I then have to love?
I love all for who they are, the part that can never change,
it is themselves at their center, I hold onto, and seek to also be
who they see me seeing, as they look into my eyes,
that I can reflect back to them, the truth of the beautiful soul within.