The story is told that a man who often felt insulted by people,
once went to a very wise man and told him about his problem.
He said: “I am easily insulted by people and it really hurts me
when people say bad things to me”.
The wise man asked, “If someone gives you a gift and you don’t accept the gift,
who does the gift belong to?”
The man replied, “Obviously to the person who is giving it to me”.
“There you go,” said the wise man, “that’s the answer.
If you did not accept the gift - he/she is forced to take it back or give it to someone else.
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So if someone insults you and you do not accept the insult,
who does it belong to?’
For us to be insulted, be belittled, angered, wronged,
we must accept it from the giver.
The minute we accept it, it becomes ours, we own it and it becomes our stuff.
I know this is much easier said than done,
but often people project their stuff on to us.
If we accept it, it becomes our stuff.
We are then offended, angered, wronged and so forth.
This is about choice and how we choose to allow the world and others to affect us.
To live positive lives we need to think about the following:
The Good Opinion Of Other People:
People’s opinion is actually just that, their opinion, we can take from it what we want and extract from it the good and let the rest go.
Often they mean well, which is beside the point.
What you choose to accept, will influence your life.
You Are What You Consume:
You have to ask yourself : Do you consume a lot of negativity and insults?
If you do, you will obviously be affected by this.
It’s the same in what we eat and drink, what we listen to and what we watch.
If the stimuli are negative. If you drink too much alcohol, soon you’ll be drunk.
If you listen to too many negative things, soon you’ll be miserable and negative.
Let The Change Start With You:
By now you know that in order to receive less negativity in your life,
you need to be less negative.
If you want to see better and more lovable people in the world,
you have to be more lovable and a better person.
So give the gift of love, respect, positivity and a better life
and refuse to accept the “gifts” of insults and negativity.
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it's not always true, though.
as a born american citizen i didn't 'allow' george w. bush to
steal the presidency and commit atrocities against afgani and iraqi civilians,
as well as steal money from millions of americans.
he just DID it. we are not always what we allow,
there is a duality and how can we be said to be the people who do what we abhor?
i agree with the spirit of what you have said,
but the logic is not complete, that's what i feel...
Marques: Thanks for sharing your courteous, thought-provoking viewpoint.
MHO:
Each of us are at our individual, personal level of development.
An important part of my personal philosophy:
My reaction to actions shows what my values/principal are;
Accepting what I can or cannot change. (:-)
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