"No Vengeance"

Forgiveness is a long road. It is based on the knowledge that each person can change; that I can change and that you can change... Let us try to understand each other. Tell me your story, the story of your pain, and I can tell you my story and somewhere, we will come together.... Forgiveness is a journey. It is not an event. The first step is "no vengeance". Then gradually to enter into a relationship with those who have caused hurt.

- Jean Vanier: Encountering 'the Other' p 37, 57