hurt, apology, forgiveness

LIFE GOAL

if our life goal is to lead a proud,
productive and successful life,
and minimize regrets at the
moment of our passing,
then
love, balance, tolerance,
honesty, forgiveness,
and patience are tools
we need.


HURT

a hurt upsets our
moral balance.
it places a burden
on the receptor, the person hurt,
and on
the instigator, the person causing the hurt.
it IS regardless of
the relationship
or the physical or
mental nature of the upset.


APOLOGY

to need an apology
there must be a hurt.
the instigator
is burdened by a need for an apology ritual.
it begins
in the heart of the instigator
with the desire not to repeat the hurt.
then
a sincere, honest, face-to-face expression of regret
for the hurt
must be made.
it frees the heart of the instigator,
but not the heart of the receptor.


FORGIVENESS

to need forgiveness
there must be a hurt.
the receptor
is burdened by a need for
a forgiveness ritual.
it begins
in the heart of the receptor
with an understanding of the how and why
of the the hurt
from the instigator’s perspective.
then
a sincere, honest, face-to-face
expression of forgiveness
must be made
it frees the heart of the receptor
but not the heart of the instigator

false mask is donned when
an apology ritual
or a forgiveness ritual
is executed without sincerity
it only fools the false giver
the imbalance is increased

with apology and forgiveness
rituals complete,
a relationship is free to grow
all thoughts of revenge, anger,
or distrust, must melt into
an honest understanding of the
other’s perspective

Forgiveness...
simple in concept
complex in execution
painful when denied
healing when complete.